It is often said that women are better at expressing their emotions and articulating their needs and desires than their male counterparts. Whether you believe this to be true or not, I’m sure you can agree that a breakdown in communication is often at the root of the problems we encounter in our relationships.
loop contacted some men and compiled a list of what they wish women knew about them.
We hear you. Even if you say something and we don’t get through for two seconds, we hear you. We will achieve it. If you choose not to wait and go do it yourself, it’s your business if you walk on your own foot.
Xavier
We are not good with suggestions, so communication is paramount… Don’t stare at me and expect me to automatically come over to chat. Tell me what you want in bed sometimes to improve the experience.
Dwight
We need love too. We also want a romance. Oh god, we want to be showered with compliments too. If you think I look/smell nice, please let me know. It will boost my confidence and just make me feel good.
mark
#1 Many have baggage, but in a macho culture feel like they can’t show it. If you’re really interested, let that conversation happen naturally. This way you can grow together, for any period of time. Some relationships evolve and people go their separate ways. Wuk wid me nuh. #2 Asking for the 177th time will not change the answer from the 101st time. When the time is right, you will get the answer. #3 Learn what makes a man tick and many times you’d take over the world – He Who Has Ears. #4, if you ask if this dress looks bad on you, don’t be upset, when you hear… wait for it… the dress looks bad on you. Get this reaction a few times and from that day on ALL dresses will look good on you.
Clyde
We would actually prefer not to lie if it were safer to tell the truth.
Lu
Verbal and emotional abuse by men is also domestic violence.
Jonathan
Men have feelings too.
Pastor Roy
How not to actually underestimate a man.
DANISH
We really care about the most superficial things. How many times do you wear that dress, knitting, nails, etc. Without saying doh wear, wear what you want. I don’t care if you do or not.
John
If we really value you, we’d make the effort – no excuses.
Justin
Not all men are the same and there is no perfect man.
Lou J
We have never seen stretch marks and said “eeeewww”, never ever.
Ayinde
Respect replaces love. With respect, I will love you and the cycle continues.
Michael
We lie to you because it’s easier than telling the truth.
Cordell
Me wanting to block other women at a party doesn’t mean I don’t love you or that I’m more attracted to them than you are. I’m a Trinidadian man, I’m predisposed to do this, this is what we do. Don’t be mad, you have fun too.
Sammy
