Everyone knows how difficult it is to raise a child, especially if you are doing it for the first time. Not long ago, you were running down the street, feeling carefree, knowing there was a whole world ahead of you—yet here you are, already caring for another human being.
No matter how prepared you think you are, parenting is challenging, and not many people can proudly say they’ve mastered this complicated process. People have developed all kinds of trauma related to their parents or upbringing. A toxic environment, reprimanding atmosphere and constant criticism – all these things are just a small part of what some children went through because of the lack of compassion their parents were able to provide.
However, this particular story is very different and is based on a parent who raised his child in an extremely healthy and understanding environment. This online USERS took to Twitter to celebrate her late father and, perhaps, offer some advice to those struggling. The thread received over 127.6 thousand likes and was filled with comments praising the woman for being so open about her relationship with her father.
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Being a parent is hard and sometimes all we need is a little advice
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Bored Panda has managed to reach now, author of this heartfelt thread: “My name is Tasha Kaminsky. I live in St. Louis, MO with my husband, dog and two cats. I am a non-profit fundraiser. I am the youngest of four children. I have an older sister and two older brothers (although one of them died in 2018). I have loads of nieces and nephews and I’m very grateful for that.”
Woman shares her late father’s healthy parenting choices and goes viral on Twitter
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Despite the fact that most of us have this love-hate relationship with people giving unsolicited advice, sometimes hearing things can make a big difference in our lives – especially if someone is looking to improve their parenting techniques. The author began her thread by addressing current and future fathers. She revealed that her father was an amazing parent and that she would like to share some of the parenting choices he made throughout his life.
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The first thing she mentioned was that her father never “policed” her sexuality. He never commented on her appearance, never asked her to change clothes or remove her makeup. What’s more, he never interfered in her dating life, nor did he like to joke about having to do violence to her boyfriends, as many overprotective fathers do. The author’s father also understood how difficult and dangerous it is to be a woman, and even helped her understand what sexualization was when she was too young to notice it.
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The man was also a proud feminist and an LGBTQ+ supporter, which basically let the OP know that she would be accepted and adored no matter what. He made sure to travel with her when she worked, encouraged and supported her academic performance, yet he never scolded her or pushed her to do well. In addition, her loving father also stood by her when she was diagnosed with a learning disability.
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BP asked Tasha to reveal what inspired her to make this thread, to which she said, “Honestly, I was looking at pictures of a Purity Ball, like one of those Christian gatherings where dads give their daughters promise rings and girls swear I’d have premarital sex and I thought to myself, wow, I’m so lucky I never had that. And then I thought I was so lucky my dad didn’t buy into any of that culture stuff. of purity. And then I decided to share a little about how wonderful my father is.”
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We then asked the author to share her thoughts on why so many fathers struggle to find that connection with their daughters: “I think patriarchal society sets men and women up with unhealthy expectations of each other. Part of patriarchy is this idea of what it means to be a man and what masculinity is, but unfortunately, the masculinity that many men aim for is toxic. What I mean by this is that men are told that in order to be men they must position themselves in a certain way with their wives and their families. So much of masculinity is scripted and performative. Real relationships are nimble, flexible, and rooted in respect, not performance. I think a lot of fathers and daughters feel committed to the script that society has written for them, but that leaves no room for them to express themselves in a meaningful way and that puts stress on the relationship.”
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And finally, we asked if there was anything Tasha would like to say to men who don’t have such a strong and healthy bond with their daughters, to which the woman replied, “I’ll never know how it’s being a father to a daughter though, I know what it’s like to be the daughter of a great father. I recommend that fathers emphasize trust and security in their relationships with their daughters. This means no violence or threats with violence.”
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“It means keeping your word when you tell your daughter you’re going to do something. This means truly seeing your daughter as her own person who deserves respect and an existence independent of her father. Recognizing your daughter’s personality as opposed to treating her as an extension of yourself is imperative.”
Other Twitter users found the thread helpful and even emotional
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